HoyaNCCT
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Post by HoyaNCCT on May 17, 2006 12:43:40 GMT -5
I am escorting my girlfriend to a wedding in a few weeks. After dropping a couple hundred on a plane ticket to be her date at this event for a couple I have never met, am I supposed to also buy a gift or does the girlfriend take care of that? I am taking a poll and thought since we're giving ettiqutte advice, might as well throw it out there.
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hoyatables
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Post by hoyatables on May 17, 2006 13:12:33 GMT -5
I think she gives the gift. Sounds like it is her friend, right?
By contrast, last weekend my girlfriend flew into town to attend a wedding in Charlottesville with me for friends of mine. She paid for her plane ticket. I covered the gift. Also covered the hotel.
In your case, she should clearly handle the gift--and she should make sure it is adequate to cover her and her guest. If you are staying overnight, you may want to make an offer to cover the hotel, but that depends on your relationship with her and her own income level.
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Boz
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Post by Boz on May 17, 2006 13:13:01 GMT -5
Girl? Friend? What's a Girl Friend?
(and they think I'm kidding)
Actually, I do have some experience here. My recommendation is that you should offer to let her pick out the gift, pay for it yourself, and then stock it up in your list of all the amazing things you've done for her ungrateful butt when you have that huge blow-up fight -- or series thereof -- somewhere down the line.
[bitter] Unless of course, your girlfriend is a human female and not a rapacious hellion in disguise; in which case, another approach might work better for you. [/bitter]
. . .And people wonder why I listen to The Smiths.
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hoyatables
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Post by hoyatables on May 17, 2006 13:25:35 GMT -5
Hahahaha--so there it is, two completely different pieces of advice.
I'm pretty sure that with weddings where the invite is "and guest", the person to whom the invitation is addressed buys the gift. If the invitation was to the both of you by name, then I think you should offer to pay. From the sound of it, you've never even met the couple, so I don't think you owe them much.
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FormerHoya
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Post by FormerHoya on May 17, 2006 13:30:43 GMT -5
Girl? Friend? What's a Girl Friend? (and they think I'm kidding) Actually, I do have some experience here. My recommendation is that you should offer to let her pick out the gift, pay for it yourself, and then stock it up in your list of all the amazing things you've done for her ungrateful butt when you have that huge blow-up fight -- or series thereof -- somewhere down the line. [bitter] Unless of course, your girlfriend is a human female and not a rapacious hellion in disguise; in which case, another approach might work better for you. [/bitter] . . .And people wonder why I listen to The Smiths. Boz, while they might not all be "rapacious hellion"s, they most certainly are all crazy. Utterly insane. The entire secret is to find one whose psychosis (whatever it may be) works in your favor. Back to the start of the thread, make her pay. You cover the hotel, and your ticket, the gift is definitely her responsibility. Just know that when it is one of your friends, you'll be covering it.
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TigerHoya
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Post by TigerHoya on May 17, 2006 14:27:01 GMT -5
I lean with the gift being her responsibility unless you actually know the people well getting married and would be the same level of friends with them as your girlfriend. In that case, a 50-50 split.
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Post by Deleted on May 17, 2006 14:28:54 GMT -5
If you're going to a wedding where you don't know anyone, try to sleep with the bride.
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CAHoya07
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Post by CAHoya07 on May 17, 2006 14:40:07 GMT -5
You could start by spelling "etiquette" correctly.
Rule #76: No excuses, play like a champion!
EDIT: Apologies on the rule number faux pas, I am embarrassed.
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Joe Hoya
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Post by Joe Hoya on May 17, 2006 14:43:18 GMT -5
Never commit to a relative unless you're sure they have a pulse.
Always have an updated family tree.
You have a wedding and a reception to seal the deal. No overtime.
Never leave a fellow crasher behind.
And of course, the most important piece of advice...
Rule #75 - No excuses, play like a champion.
Edit: DAMMIT, CA!
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Elvado
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Post by Elvado on May 17, 2006 15:10:59 GMT -5
One aside (politley aimed at Joe Hoya):
Never ruin someone's wedding etc by engaging in cretinous chants where you spell the name of a football team which hasn't won a title in 46 years (and counting)...
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TigerHoya
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Post by TigerHoya on May 17, 2006 15:26:25 GMT -5
If you're going to a wedding where you don't know anyone, try to sleep with the bride. You're not coming to my wedding now (not that you were before either )
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Joe Hoya
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Post by Joe Hoya on May 17, 2006 16:49:36 GMT -5
One aside (politley aimed at Joe Hoya): Never ruin someone's wedding etc by engaging in cretinous chants where you spell the name of a football team which hasn't won a title in 46 years (and counting)... Been to more weddings/funerals than most people my age, and I must say that I have not heard these "cretinous chants" of which you speak at any of them (including my cousin, who married a long-time season ticket holder). That's right, Philly fans don't cheer for the Eagles at funerals. Who knew?
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SoCalHoya
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Post by SoCalHoya on May 17, 2006 17:06:40 GMT -5
The "and guest" never pays. You might have to put out though.
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TBird41
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Post by TBird41 on May 18, 2006 9:42:28 GMT -5
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afirth
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Post by afirth on May 18, 2006 13:09:28 GMT -5
fun-da-men-tals (clap clap clapclapclap)
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EasyEd
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Post by EasyEd on May 18, 2006 13:45:09 GMT -5
What, are you afraid to ask your girl friend if she's buying the gift?
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Post by StPetersburgHoya (Inactive) on May 18, 2006 15:59:01 GMT -5
What, are you afraid to ask your girl friend if she's buying the gift? I'll field this question as though it were directed to me - yes, he is.
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Joe Hoya
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Post by Joe Hoya on May 18, 2006 23:06:15 GMT -5
I actually had the opportunity to use the "play like a champion" rule with my father after convocation today, and my sister said "That's Rule #76."
Shame has been heaped upon me. There is no excuse.
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DrumsGoBang
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Post by DrumsGoBang on May 19, 2006 8:30:20 GMT -5
The imdb site has so many quotes that its basically the entire script but out of order.
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Post by hoyachick on May 19, 2006 14:17:38 GMT -5
As one of the "rapacious hellions", I'll chime in as well. If it's her friend, she's buying the gift, that falls outside the realm of your responsibility. Your job is to show up, look good and make her the envy of all her friends by being suave, charming and debonaire. Or at least not pick your teeth with your fork.
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